Support for Women 35+

You know how when you're sick and you wish for a magic fairy to bring you soup and you realize that there are no magical fairies and the soup isn't going to taste good anyway so you turn over and try to go back to sleep? What I do is help women find their magical fairy dust. That space where we're empowered and supported (despite the Hot & Flashy side of our out of sync bodies), so that we can get back to our lives and living well.

Too many women are going at this without support ... from personal to professional from doctors to societal. It can feel like everything is stacked against us and our well being suffers, immensely.

I've heard too many stories from women who've stepped back from life at home and at work. Unable to keep up in a meeting because their words are missing and the filler words only make sense inside their brain, the "whatchamacallit" is doing "that thing where people open their door". The words we were hoping to flow were simple: "Our favorite, most profitable client is opening a new location and we're ready for their launch".)

It's not okay to feel so out of sorts.

The symptoms count is up to 200+ (it was a seven with a zero!). The fact is science is still learning the impact of hypogonadism (for men and women, from estrogen and testosterone to thyroid to the exact location and function of our hormone receptors).

Perimenopause, Menopause, and Post Menopause isn't a fad. It's not a thing made up. It's biological. And every woman gifted a life that lives past 35 is going to experience it, in some form.

That's where I come in, you see, I'm the woman who went the looooooong road to discover all of those symptoms for all of those years weren't unrelated. It was all evidence of hypogonadism aka perimenopause aka my testosterone, estrogen, progesterone production system was failing.

Almost a decade went by before the dots connected for me. My knowledge and my drive to get someone to really hear me once I knew the problem was long and, as I am writing this, is partially on going.

I was determined to advocate for myself more effectively and because of that, I have gotten where I am. Still a little messy, but far from where I was.

Internally, I had justified and excused so many symptoms because each doctor kept telling me "You're normal."

Silently I was drained. I kept doing what I had to do, but there was nothing left. I'm guessing you know what I'm talking about. You get up and go because you have no choice. You muster it up, but you see the sheer exhaustion, stress, and sleep deprivation every time you head to the bathroom to melt your way through another hot flash or wrap up to endure freezing ice cold chills that would normally indicate a fever.

Once I knew what I needed and the dots that needed to be connected, I was able to get medical care. But, that took months and hours of phone calls and more advocating than I ever thought was necessary ( I had done a lot of patient advocacy work before this for loved ones).

I was lied to.

I was ignored.

I was dismissed.

I was told no.

I kept going. I had to. I knew that just because my doctor wasn't lucky enough to attend one of the few schools in the United States that even offered perimenopause/post menopause hormone classes didn't mean it was okay for my doctors not to learn and support me. After all I'm part of HALF of the population that's all going or will go through this. I wouldn't be their first and certainly wouldn't be their last patient.

Too many women need care for me to give up on myself. That's where I have landed. That's where I will stay.

Today, I am thankful to have HRT support, although I'm still working on getting everything my body needs I am feeling soooooooooooooo much better.

I'm offering the kind and gentle support I wish I had from another woman, from any of the doctors or specialists I saw, someone to hear my experience and offer a wisdom from their journey, a space to have a conversation, a space to really talk.

Supporting women navigating perimenopause, menopause, and post menopause with care and clarity.

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Supporting women navigating perimenopause, menopause, and post menopause with care and clarity.

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